Comments for The Nice Guy http://theniceguy.wordpress.com Bringing the TRUTH about The Nice Guy to Women Since 2007 Tue, 02 Dec 2008 11:02:57 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Contact THE NICE GUY by Terry Lee http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/contact-the-nice-guy/#comment-654 Terry Lee Tue, 02 Dec 2008 11:02:57 +0000 http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/contact-the-nice-guy/#comment-654 Thank goodness for Stumble or else I would have never discovered this site, I do hope you keep blogging on behalf of all nice guys. Would you consider trading links? I'm a wedding photographer and I'm looking for like minded and creative people out there. Please let me know. My blog is at http://www.terrylee.net/blog Thank goodness for Stumble or else I would have never discovered this site, I do hope you keep blogging on behalf of all nice guys.

Would you consider trading links? I’m a wedding photographer and I’m looking for like minded and creative people out there. Please let me know. My blog is at http://www.terrylee.net/blog

]]> Comment on Contact THE NICE GUY by Mickey http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/contact-the-nice-guy/#comment-647 Mickey Wed, 23 Apr 2008 17:53:58 +0000 http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/contact-the-nice-guy/#comment-647 Really wish you would continue your story, or at least let us know what has happened with you! Really wish you would continue your story, or at least let us know what has happened with you!

]]> Comment on And the Journey Goes On…10:30 P.M., Part Three by Chris Dye http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/03/15/and-the-journey-goes-on1030-pm-part-three/#comment-645 Chris Dye Sun, 30 Mar 2008 20:58:40 +0000 http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/03/15/and-the-journey-goes-on1030-pm-part-three/#comment-645 Nice read. great little story. I love this blog. Nice read. great little story. I love this blog.

]]> Comment on It’s Final! by K.M. Ryan http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/20/its-final/#comment-639 K.M. Ryan Fri, 01 Feb 2008 00:06:16 +0000 http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/20/its-final/#comment-639 Where did you go? Where did you go?

]]> Comment on It’s Final! by brite http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/20/its-final/#comment-637 brite Fri, 25 Jan 2008 19:03:07 +0000 http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/20/its-final/#comment-637 it seems a tough job, you didn't write a letter since then! it seems a tough job, you didn’t write a letter since then!

]]> Comment on About THE NICE GUY by Jonny http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/about/#comment-621 Jonny Thu, 20 Dec 2007 01:13:09 +0000 #comment-621 Oh and another thing, love of people, including the jerks who screw around the women you want. Love them enough to confront them, have some backbone!!! I suggested 1 Cor 13 also because it talks about hope. Your heart needs to be a gushing hot spring of love for life that will feed all of your friends and potential lovers. Oh and women who fall for jerks and bad guys are usually running away from the cowardly nice guy, because he makes her want to stab herself with a fork. Oh and another thing, love of people, including the jerks who screw around the women you want. Love them enough to confront them, have some backbone!!!

I suggested 1 Cor 13 also because it talks about hope. Your heart needs to be a gushing hot spring of love for life that will feed all of your friends and potential lovers.

Oh and women who fall for jerks and bad guys are usually running away from the cowardly nice guy, because he makes her want to stab herself with a fork.

]]> Comment on About THE NICE GUY by Jonny http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/about/#comment-620 Jonny Thu, 20 Dec 2007 01:00:28 +0000 #comment-620 I think the key problem with nice guys (or at least my former yours truly) is that they lack honesty and sincerity. The reason they lack honesty is because they are petrified in fear. Their whole lives (from relationships, to career, and everything in between) is and always has been "waiting to happen", as if it is a cardinal sin to pursue your desires. They are petrified in fear because they do not have love for their lives and their own souls. Quite honestly, I have no idea how athiests ever find love, it makes no sense to me. Many nice guys complain they cannot get a girlfriend. In reality he is just being dishonest and just horny after some temporary pussy (yours truly guilty as charged). Or if that's not it, they're too lazy to do the hard work of 'A' making themselves attractive, and 'B' finding out what he want and putting himself there (again I've been guilty). Therefore one huge difference between the nice guy and "jerk" is the level of honesty. Honesty with himself and the rest of the world. Do you want a friend? or do you just want pussy? Because it's not easy to do the friendship thing, and you can judge a man's ability to get a girl based on his other relationships to both men and women. It's really no different when it comes down to it. If you are inept at making and keeping friends, then you are inept at relationships in general and that includes relationships with women. Women do not want a nice guy so much as they want a real guy. Everyone has faults and imperfections, and yes even women! What makes you think she's so perfect? why do you treat her like she's an impartial angel? Treat her with more respect, be assertive, and don't throw sugar-glazed lies at her. Thus we've dispelled the myth about the nice guy. They don't want a macho guy, or a shy guy, but they want all of it rolled-into-one. They want a guy who can shed his raw vulnerable self without fear (but instead with love) and let his confidence shine. This is what will turn her on (well at least the one I'm dating right now). Take your fear and replace it with love, and all your prayers will be answered. Love of life, which will lead to discovering your God-given purpose (a man on a mission is very sexy). I care about other nice guys, because I know how it sucks, I've lived it, and there's still work to do, but believe me when I say that my life has been turned upside down with respect to my relationships over the past couple of years. There is more hope than you think is there. Go read 1st Corinthians chapter 13 in the bible if you want to really learn what this love thing is all about. I think the key problem with nice guys (or at least my former yours truly) is that they lack honesty and sincerity. The reason they lack honesty is because they are petrified in fear. Their whole lives (from relationships, to career, and everything in between) is and always has been “waiting to happen”, as if it is a cardinal sin to pursue your desires. They are petrified in fear because they do not have love for their lives and their own souls. Quite honestly, I have no idea how athiests ever find love, it makes no sense to me.

Many nice guys complain they cannot get a girlfriend. In reality he is just being dishonest and just horny after some temporary pussy (yours truly guilty as charged). Or if that’s not it, they’re too lazy to do the hard work of ‘A’ making themselves attractive, and ‘B’ finding out what he want and putting himself there (again I’ve been guilty). Therefore one huge difference between the nice guy and “jerk” is the level of honesty. Honesty with himself and the rest of the world.

Do you want a friend? or do you just want pussy? Because it’s not easy to do the friendship thing, and you can judge a man’s ability to get a girl based on his other relationships to both men and women. It’s really no different when it comes down to it. If you are inept at making and keeping friends, then you are inept at relationships in general and that includes relationships with women.

Women do not want a nice guy so much as they want a real guy. Everyone has faults and imperfections, and yes even women! What makes you think she’s so perfect? why do you treat her like she’s an impartial angel? Treat her with more respect, be assertive, and don’t throw sugar-glazed lies at her. Thus we’ve dispelled the myth about the nice guy. They don’t want a macho guy, or a shy guy, but they want all of it rolled-into-one. They want a guy who can shed his raw vulnerable self without fear (but instead with love) and let his confidence shine. This is what will turn her on (well at least the one I’m dating right now).

Take your fear and replace it with love, and all your prayers will be answered. Love of life, which will lead to discovering your God-given purpose (a man on a mission is very sexy). I care about other nice guys, because I know how it sucks, I’ve lived it, and there’s still work to do, but believe me when I say that my life has been turned upside down with respect to my relationships over the past couple of years. There is more hope than you think is there.

Go read 1st Corinthians chapter 13 in the bible if you want to really learn what this love thing is all about.

]]> Comment on Before We Return to Our Regularly Scheduled Programming… by nithtrizils http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/04/25/before-we-return-to-our-regularly-scheduled-programming/#comment-589 nithtrizils Fri, 16 Nov 2007 09:54:04 +0000 http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/04/25/before-we-return-to-our-regularly-scheduled-programming/#comment-589 Two new studies show why some people are more attractive for members of the opposite sex than others. The University of Florida, Florida State University found that physically attractive people almost instantly attract the attention of the interlocutor, sobesednitsy with them, literally, it is difficult to make eye. This conclusion was reached by a series of psychological experiments, which were determined by the people who believe in sending the first seconds after the acquaintance. Here, a curious feature: single, unmarried experimental preferred to look at the guys, beauty opposite sex, and family, people most often by representatives of their sex. The authors believe that this feature developed a behavior as a result of the evolution: a man trying to find a decent pair to acquire offspring. If this is resolved, he wondered potential rivals. Detailed information about this magazine will be published Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. In turn, a joint study of the Rockefeller University, Rockefeller University and Duke University, Duke University in North Carolina revealed that women are perceived differently by men smell. During experiments studied the perception of women one of the ingredients of male pheromone-androstenona smell, which is contained in urine or sweat. The results were startling: women are part of this repugnant odor, and the other part is very attractive, resembling the smell of vanilla, and the third group have not felt any smell. The authors argue that the reason is that the differences in the receptor responsible for the olfactory system, from different people are different. It has long been proven that mammals (including human) odor is one way of attracting the attention of representatives of the opposite sex. A detailed article about the journal Nature will publish. Two new studies show why some people are more attractive for members of the opposite sex than others.

The University of Florida, Florida State University found that physically attractive people almost instantly attract the attention of the interlocutor, sobesednitsy with them, literally, it is difficult to make eye. This conclusion was reached by a series of psychological experiments, which were determined by the people who believe in sending the first seconds after the acquaintance. Here, a curious feature: single, unmarried experimental preferred to look at the guys, beauty opposite sex, and family, people most often by representatives of their sex.

The authors believe that this feature developed a behavior as a result of the evolution: a man trying to find a decent pair to acquire offspring. If this is resolved, he wondered potential rivals. Detailed information about this magazine will be published Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.

In turn, a joint study of the Rockefeller University, Rockefeller University and Duke University, Duke University in North Carolina revealed that women are perceived differently by men smell. During experiments studied the perception of women one of the ingredients of male pheromone-androstenona smell, which is contained in urine or sweat.

The results were startling: women are part of this repugnant odor, and the other part is very attractive, resembling the smell of vanilla, and the third group have not felt any smell. The authors argue that the reason is that the differences in the receptor responsible for the olfactory system, from different people are different.

It has long been proven that mammals (including human) odor is one way of attracting the attention of representatives of the opposite sex. A detailed article about the journal Nature will publish.

]]> Comment on Let Me Explain… by daz http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/03/06/let-me-explain/#comment-530 daz Wed, 24 Oct 2007 06:43:24 +0000 http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/03/06/let-me-explain/#comment-530 You think because you smack arse in bed and have bad thoughts that you aren't a pussy? Sorry pal, you are. The very fact that you mention that you aren't a "pussy" as Tom Leykis would refer to you indicates to me that you are 100% guaranteed to be a pussy. Have a great time with your role as a friend and confidante of women while real men have sex with them. You think because you smack arse in bed and have bad thoughts that you aren’t a pussy? Sorry pal, you are. The very fact that you mention that you aren’t a “pussy” as Tom Leykis would refer to you indicates to me that you are 100% guaranteed to be a pussy. Have a great time with your role as a friend and confidante of women while real men have sex with them.

]]> Comment on It’s Final! by chessnoid http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/20/its-final/#comment-506 chessnoid Sun, 14 Oct 2007 22:16:06 +0000 http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/20/its-final/#comment-506 I found you thru SU. Congrats on the job! How is going now since it has been a few months? Good I hope. I read some other posts and thought it interesting. Let me know if you start posting again. Cheers! I found you thru SU. Congrats on the job! How is going now since it has been a few months? Good I hope. I read some other posts and thought it interesting. Let me know if you start posting again. Cheers!

]]> Comment on I Guess I’m Screwed by Angel http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/03/02/i-guess-im-screwed/#comment-467 Angel Thu, 27 Sep 2007 12:29:33 +0000 http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/03/02/i-guess-im-screwed/#comment-467 I just came across this blog and though it's a bit old, perhaps one day you will get to read this. I think everything written is somewhat on the right path but I see a definition, a point, a stereotype that is clearly misunderstood. Nice guy ... there are two subjects that everyone is incorporating into one. Nice guy Bad boy Dominant submissive You can have a nice guy most certainly be dominant. As a matter of fact, a real Man, a true Dominant that knows himself ... is a nice guy. He has control of himself, his emotions, he takes care of the people in his life, their hearts and desires. He is strong and holds in his convictions, desires and beliefs. He, they, him, the Dominant Man is very responsible. If you find one that isn't, perhaps he is not a dominant but someone with 'issues', a control freak ... now you have the 'bad boy'. You can have a nice guy who is submissive also. They are just two entirely different subjects and categories. Nice guy and bad boy have nothing to do with the definitions of Dominant and submissive. Take the subject of nice guy and bad boy only - D/s completely out of the picture, a vanilla life. The nice guy is then categorized as a loser, a wimp more than likely. You are right, women don't want that. But truth is, neither do they want the bad boy. Nothing everything is black and white. There is grey, there is a middle and many Men fall there. If you are Dominant by nature, then be strong, responsible, loving and demanding in a nurturing way. Be a good Man, be the nice guy because being Dominant gives you all the strength a woman wants AND you will be capable of being good to her, loving. In a D/s relationship, her trust and belief in you is essential. People can't believe or trust in a bad boy and that is just someone with issues / immature. I hope this made sense to you. Just remember, you can't give the same definition of two subjects to one, at least not on this. Think of it as: Milk or Whiskey? (nice guy or bad boy) Leather / silk. (Dominant / submissive) Angel I just came across this blog and though it’s a bit old, perhaps one day you will get to read this.

I think everything written is somewhat on the right path but I see a definition, a point, a stereotype that is clearly misunderstood.

Nice guy … there are two subjects that everyone is incorporating into one.

Nice guy
Bad boy

Dominant
submissive

You can have a nice guy most certainly be dominant. As a matter of fact, a real Man, a true Dominant that knows himself … is a nice guy. He has control of himself, his emotions, he takes care of the people in his life, their hearts and desires. He is strong and holds in his convictions, desires and beliefs. He, they, him, the Dominant Man is very responsible. If you find one that isn’t, perhaps he is not a dominant but someone with ‘issues’, a control freak … now you have the ‘bad boy’.

You can have a nice guy who is submissive also. They are just two entirely different subjects and categories. Nice guy and bad boy have nothing to do with the definitions of Dominant and submissive.

Take the subject of nice guy and bad boy only – D/s completely out of the picture, a vanilla life. The nice guy is then categorized as a loser, a wimp more than likely. You are right, women don’t want that. But truth is, neither do they want the bad boy. Nothing everything is black and white. There is grey, there is a middle and many Men fall there.

If you are Dominant by nature, then be strong, responsible, loving and demanding in a nurturing way. Be a good Man, be the nice guy because being Dominant gives you all the strength a woman wants AND you will be capable of being good to her, loving. In a D/s relationship, her trust and belief in you is essential.

People can’t believe or trust in a bad boy and that is just someone with issues / immature.

I hope this made sense to you. Just remember, you can’t give the same definition of two subjects to one, at least not on this.

Think of it as:

Milk or Whiskey? (nice guy or bad boy)

Leather / silk. (Dominant / submissive)

Angel

]]> Comment on It’s Final! by ms_lildreamer http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/20/its-final/#comment-465 ms_lildreamer Wed, 26 Sep 2007 16:57:24 +0000 http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/20/its-final/#comment-465 Yes, we do miss you, but hope you are having a great life, now! Yes, we do miss you, but hope you are having a great life, now!

]]> Comment on About THE NICE GUY by hiutopor http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/about/#comment-457 hiutopor Tue, 18 Sep 2007 00:52:05 +0000 #comment-457 Hello Very interesting information! Thanks! G'night Hello

Very interesting information! Thanks!

G’night

]]> Comment on I Now Have a Myspace! by My Shopping Life http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/03/29/i-now-have-a-myspace/#comment-371 My Shopping Life Sat, 18 Aug 2007 07:59:37 +0000 http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/03/29/i-now-have-a-myspace/#comment-371 Thanks for sharing this information. Really is pack with new knowledge. Keep them coming. Thanks for sharing this information. Really is pack with new knowledge. Keep them coming.

]]> Comment on I Guess I’m Screwed by Art http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/03/02/i-guess-im-screwed/#comment-320 Art Wed, 08 Aug 2007 02:57:09 +0000 http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/03/02/i-guess-im-screwed/#comment-320 The notion that women want "bad boys" is somewhat true. Only the truly emotionally disturbed ones want someone that really mistreats them, otherwise they just want someone to take charge. They, at least most I have met, want someone that when it's time, can be dominant, and yes, that includes the bedroom. Someone to push their sexual limits of what THEY consider naughty. Each one has their own limits and understanding of what that is... you have heard the phrase "A lady in public and a whore in the bedroom"? I have found that women react to this treatment COMPLETELY. Someone that respects them but is still willing and able to continue to find ways to make them feel "naughty" but done with respect as she IS your partner. The other benefit is that they have a deep feeling of satisfying their man, which is very important to all of them. To feel as if they are able to please him and do as he asks/wants/desires/needs. Many women might say this is not true. Don't think so? Try it! A good hair pulling, a good whack on the ass, all the way to role playing as her Master... done with respect and care will drive her wild. It is a well known fact that you can't have two dominants in a good relationship nor two submissives... someone has to lead, sexually and otherwise. Two dominants or two submissives can get together and have magnificent sexual experiences, but there will be a certain something lacking emotionally and neither will find it easy to express themselves openly about sexual matters. They need both, respect as an individual and that little push to be a "naughty little girl". That's when she will bloom and be "YOUR lady in public and YOUR whore in the bedroom". The notion that women want “bad boys” is somewhat true. Only the truly emotionally disturbed ones want someone that really mistreats them, otherwise they just want someone to take charge. They, at least most I have met, want someone that when it’s time, can be dominant, and yes, that includes the bedroom. Someone to push their sexual limits of what THEY consider naughty. Each one has their own limits and understanding of what that is… you have heard the phrase “A lady in public and a whore in the bedroom”? I have found that women react to this treatment COMPLETELY. Someone that respects them but is still willing and able to continue to find ways to make them feel “naughty” but done with respect as she IS your partner. The other benefit is that they have a deep feeling of satisfying their man, which is very important to all of them. To feel as if they are able to please him and do as he asks/wants/desires/needs. Many women might say this is not true. Don’t think so? Try it! A good hair pulling, a good whack on the ass, all the way to role playing as her Master… done with respect and care will drive her wild. It is a well known fact that you can’t have two dominants in a good relationship nor two submissives… someone has to lead, sexually and otherwise. Two dominants or two submissives can get together and have magnificent sexual experiences, but there will be a certain something lacking emotionally and neither will find it easy to express themselves openly about sexual matters. They need both, respect as an individual and that little push to be a “naughty little girl”. That’s when she will bloom and be “YOUR lady in public and YOUR whore in the bedroom”.

]]> Comment on It’s Final! by Honestly http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/20/its-final/#comment-303 Honestly Sat, 04 Aug 2007 21:53:16 +0000 http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/20/its-final/#comment-303 Boy, you need to start writing again! We miss you! Ciao! Boy, you need to start writing again! We miss you! Ciao!

]]> Comment on It’s Final! by confidentialgurl http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/20/its-final/#comment-289 confidentialgurl Thu, 19 Jul 2007 03:39:32 +0000 http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/20/its-final/#comment-289 That's really great! Congrats! I haven't been on here as much lately either - hope we both blog more in the future! That’s really great! Congrats!

I haven’t been on here as much lately either – hope we both blog more in the future!

]]> Comment on Just A Musing by robmichael http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/14/just-a-musing/#comment-286 robmichael Thu, 12 Jul 2007 02:34:16 +0000 http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/14/just-a-musing/#comment-286 I know exactly what you're going through because I went and am still going through it myself. My relationship with my ex ended badly and I was angry for a few months, to a point where she hated me because of accusations I made about her, I apologized to her (although part of me still thinks it's true) and i thought that was taht. However, it's been 2 years since I've really spoken to her, I tried one time at an occasion to say hi only to get the cold ignoring routine. Every time she sees me with our mutual friends at the same social occasions, she completely ignores me, despises me, and I guess seems to be creeped out by me. Even my friends tell me the same thing. The only thing I can think of is that she's not over me, but hey, I keep saying to myself "get over it!" there's no need to hate me, all my friends and family know how well I treated her and how badly she treated me, and now I can say that I feel like the better person because I don't let her get to me. If someone can't let go and get over what happened nearly 2 years ago then they must have some issues. I know exactly what you’re going through because I went and am still going through it myself. My relationship with my ex ended badly and I was angry for a few months, to a point where she hated me because of accusations I made about her, I apologized to her (although part of me still thinks it’s true) and i thought that was taht. However, it’s been 2 years since I’ve really spoken to her, I tried one time at an occasion to say hi only to get the cold ignoring routine. Every time she sees me with our mutual friends at the same social occasions, she completely ignores me, despises me, and I guess seems to be creeped out by me. Even my friends tell me the same thing. The only thing I can think of is that she’s not over me, but hey, I keep saying to myself “get over it!” there’s no need to hate me, all my friends and family know how well I treated her and how badly she treated me, and now I can say that I feel like the better person because I don’t let her get to me. If someone can’t let go and get over what happened nearly 2 years ago then they must have some issues.

]]> Comment on It’s Final! by keoki http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/20/its-final/#comment-279 keoki Thu, 05 Jul 2007 18:07:29 +0000 http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/20/its-final/#comment-279 just have to chime in and say congrats as well. just have to chime in and say congrats as well.

]]> Comment on It’s Final! by Byron http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/20/its-final/#comment-274 Byron Mon, 02 Jul 2007 23:24:54 +0000 http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/20/its-final/#comment-274 Congratulations! That is so great! Congratulations!

That is so great!

]]> Comment on It’s Final! by heartgnosis http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/20/its-final/#comment-260 heartgnosis Fri, 22 Jun 2007 19:52:25 +0000 http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/20/its-final/#comment-260 Good going! Sounds like you worked hard to get it, so I hope it's all you wanted! :) Good going! Sounds like you worked hard to get it, so I hope it’s all you wanted! :)

]]> Comment on It’s Final! by Kerstin http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/20/its-final/#comment-257 Kerstin Thu, 21 Jun 2007 15:00:19 +0000 http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/20/its-final/#comment-257 Congratulations. Congratulations.

]]> Comment on Contact THE NICE GUY by Honestly http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/contact-the-nice-guy/#comment-249 Honestly Sat, 16 Jun 2007 16:13:53 +0000 http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/contact-the-nice-guy/#comment-249 Our of curiosity does anyone actually know who you are? Our of curiosity does anyone actually know who you are?

]]> Comment on Friday…Fun…Day…or Something Like That… by Nora http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/14/fridayfundayor-something-like-that/#comment-247 Nora Fri, 15 Jun 2007 14:43:36 +0000 http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/14/fridayfundayor-something-like-that/#comment-247 well, there is nothing wrong with taking a hot girlfriend of yours. however, I was recently in that situation, only not a wedding party- my brother's graduation. my ex was there, and though he ended things and i didn't hate him, i was told he hated me. go figure. he brought a girl with him to graduation. i went solo. and i don't regret it. sure, i dressed up and made sure I looked nice, but we said our casual hellos and his parents hugged me, and that was that. case closed. so, my advice? go solo. look stunning, smell great, and if she sees you, be the bigger person and say hi. if she's weird about it, everyone will know that you made the effort to be nice. Let us know how it goes and CONGRATS on the job. (and sorry I wrote a book on your comment wall). well, there is nothing wrong with taking a hot girlfriend of yours. however, I was recently in that situation, only not a wedding party- my brother’s graduation. my ex was there, and though he ended things and i didn’t hate him, i was told he hated me. go figure. he brought a girl with him to graduation. i went solo. and i don’t regret it. sure, i dressed up and made sure I looked nice, but we said our casual hellos and his parents hugged me, and that was that. case closed. so, my advice? go solo. look stunning, smell great, and if she sees you, be the bigger person and say hi. if she’s weird about it, everyone will know that you made the effort to be nice. Let us know how it goes and CONGRATS on the job. (and sorry I wrote a book on your comment wall).

]]> Comment on About THE NICE GUY by heartgnosis http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/about/#comment-245 heartgnosis Fri, 15 Jun 2007 04:38:20 +0000 #comment-245 You know, I'm not sure how nice a guy I am, but I totally feel you! I've subscribed to your blog and looking forward to seeing what comes next. Thanks for sharing your insight :) You know, I’m not sure how nice a guy I am, but I totally feel you! I’ve subscribed to your blog and looking forward to seeing what comes next. Thanks for sharing your insight :)

]]> Comment on Just A Musing by heartgnosis http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/14/just-a-musing/#comment-244 heartgnosis Fri, 15 Jun 2007 04:33:22 +0000 http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/14/just-a-musing/#comment-244 I think polite avoidance might not be bad. If you don't make her uncomfortable then she's got no real reason to raise her hackles, right? Maybe a smile and "how are you?" could work, but if she's going to get competitive it's probably best to walk away. Another idea might be to take a mutual friend with you when you approach to keep her reaction in check... Just a thought! :) I think polite avoidance might not be bad. If you don’t make her uncomfortable then she’s got no real reason to raise her hackles, right? Maybe a smile and “how are you?” could work, but if she’s going to get competitive it’s probably best to walk away. Another idea might be to take a mutual friend with you when you approach to keep her reaction in check… Just a thought! :)

]]> Comment on Contact THE NICE GUY by Zachariah http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/contact-the-nice-guy/#comment-242 Zachariah Fri, 15 Jun 2007 00:07:03 +0000 http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/contact-the-nice-guy/#comment-242 I'm a young looking 62 year old that hasen't so much as had a cup of coffee with a woman in over 15 years. Now, the biggest part of the problen is an extreme case of shyness. I couldn't approach a woman if my life depended on it. The rest of the problem is that I'm a nice guy, and we all know that women don't want nice guys. They go for the bad boys every time. Unfortunately, all I know is nice. It isn't in me to even try to be a bad boy. I guess a relationship just isn't going to happen. If that's the case, I can only hope whatever time I have left is short. I’m a young looking 62 year old that hasen’t so much as had a cup of coffee with a woman in over 15 years. Now, the biggest part of the problen is an extreme case of shyness. I couldn’t approach a woman if my life depended on it. The rest of the problem is that I’m a nice guy, and we all know that women don’t want nice guys. They go for the bad boys every time. Unfortunately, all I know is nice. It isn’t in me to even try to be a bad boy. I guess a relationship just isn’t going to happen. If that’s the case, I can only hope whatever time I have left is short.

]]> Comment on About THE NICE GUY by mommamoxie http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/about/#comment-241 mommamoxie Thu, 14 Jun 2007 23:02:57 +0000 #comment-241 Hi Mr. Benevolent Guy, I saw you on the "most pop blog spot" list and I am just dipping my toes into the blogpool so I clicked to see what/why you are popular. And here I am. HAHA You are sweet. I am a lady who married a "nice guy" many years ago, after dating a few not-so-nice kind...we spawned two youngins and we are still best friends and have rocking good sex. Life is good when "she" is wise enough to pick that nice guy. ;) I also would like to make a special mention of your solid ego strength in "allowing" the anti-nice guy comments here. Words are just that. Take care and DO YER THANG!!! Hi Mr. Benevolent Guy,
I saw you on the “most pop blog spot” list and I am just dipping my toes into the blogpool so I clicked to see what/why you are popular. And here I am. HAHA You are sweet. I am a lady who married a “nice guy” many years ago, after dating a few not-so-nice kind…we spawned two youngins and we are still best friends and have rocking good sex. Life is good when “she” is wise enough to pick that nice guy. ;)

I also would like to make a special mention of your solid ego strength in “allowing” the anti-nice guy comments here. Words are just that. Take care and DO YER THANG!!!

]]> Comment on Just A Musing by Irvina http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/14/just-a-musing/#comment-240 Irvina Thu, 14 Jun 2007 22:45:39 +0000 http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/2007/06/14/just-a-musing/#comment-240 I'm with AB. "Nice guys" take the high road, "Mean guys" make out with random chicks in front of their ex's. I’m with AB. “Nice guys” take the high road, “Mean guys” make out with random chicks in front of their ex’s.

]]> Comment on About THE NICE GUY by D. Peace http://theniceguy.wordpress.com/about/#comment-239 D. Peace Thu, 14 Jun 2007 21:32:52 +0000 #comment-239 Just remember, everyone: Nothing says "gentleman" like publically congratulating yourself for being such an outstanding guy. Just remember, everyone:

Nothing says “gentleman” like publically congratulating yourself for being such an outstanding guy.

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