I’m new to your blog and am really enjoying it thus far. You seem to be a pretty decent guy (by today’s standards anyway) and it is very refreshing to hear your views and opinions about dating and the guy/girl relationship. I’ll add some of my opinions just because I feel like it.
I am a nice girl…I really am and I can’t help it. If I try to be a “tease” or “whore” or even a “one night stand girl” I just can’t do it. I’m your typical girl next door and sometimes that just sucks. I’m too shy, too nice and too good for my own good. I feel like at this age most guys don’t want to girl next door; they want the sexy vixen or the hot girl that will look good on their arm and make their friends jealous.
I may enjoy getting dressed up and going out and having a good time with my friends but I’m not gonna sleep with some guy I meet at a bar that night. The problem with guys is that they want it too easily and maybe it’s because us girls give it up to easily…its the chicken or the egg. But my point is this..since when did buying a girl a drink mean sex was going to happen?? Or for that matter, when did dancing at a club mean it had to lead to something else. I like to dance for the fun of dancing..so sue me! Just because we share 4 minutes on a dance floor while you grind and molest me does not make me your conquest for the night…it is just a dance.
You may think I’m a prude for not having sex with someone I just met or went on a couple dates with but at the same time, if I slept with a majority of the guys I just met or casually dated then I would be a whore and no “decent” guy would want me.
Girls like me don’t have it as easy as guys think we do. It’s difficult for me to go out and find a person to connect with. Guys always say they want to bring home and marry the “girl next door” type but no one wants to actually date them because it’s too much work…at least that’s what my guy friends tell me. So yeah, I could go to the bar and play the part of “tease” and “whore” but at the end of the night I’m still just me and I’m still going home alone.
(sidenote: from my observations being an east coast girl, the typical bar/club guys is as follows: short, gelled hair; too muscle-y for his own good and definately showing it off; too much cologne; button down shirt with top couple buttons undone and sleeves rolled or short sleeve polo (neck possibly up); necklace/chain of somesort around neck; jeans; generally just tries too hard.)
I’m a young looking 62 year old that hasen’t so much as had a cup of coffee with a woman in over 15 years. Now, the biggest part of the problen is an extreme case of shyness. I couldn’t approach a woman if my life depended on it. The rest of the problem is that I’m a nice guy, and we all know that women don’t want nice guys. They go for the bad boys every time. Unfortunately, all I know is nice. It isn’t in me to even try to be a bad boy. I guess a relationship just isn’t going to happen. If that’s the case, I can only hope whatever time I have left is short.
Thank goodness for Stumble or else I would have never discovered this site, I do hope you keep blogging on behalf of all nice guys.
Would you consider trading links? I’m a wedding photographer and I’m looking for like minded and creative people out there. Please let me know. My blog is at http://www.terrylee.net/blog
Good luck with the job man
I’m new to your blog and am really enjoying it thus far. You seem to be a pretty decent guy (by today’s standards anyway) and it is very refreshing to hear your views and opinions about dating and the guy/girl relationship. I’ll add some of my opinions just because I feel like it.
I am a nice girl…I really am and I can’t help it. If I try to be a “tease” or “whore” or even a “one night stand girl” I just can’t do it. I’m your typical girl next door and sometimes that just sucks. I’m too shy, too nice and too good for my own good. I feel like at this age most guys don’t want to girl next door; they want the sexy vixen or the hot girl that will look good on their arm and make their friends jealous.
I may enjoy getting dressed up and going out and having a good time with my friends but I’m not gonna sleep with some guy I meet at a bar that night. The problem with guys is that they want it too easily and maybe it’s because us girls give it up to easily…its the chicken or the egg. But my point is this..since when did buying a girl a drink mean sex was going to happen?? Or for that matter, when did dancing at a club mean it had to lead to something else. I like to dance for the fun of dancing..so sue me! Just because we share 4 minutes on a dance floor while you grind and molest me does not make me your conquest for the night…it is just a dance.
You may think I’m a prude for not having sex with someone I just met or went on a couple dates with but at the same time, if I slept with a majority of the guys I just met or casually dated then I would be a whore and no “decent” guy would want me.
Girls like me don’t have it as easy as guys think we do. It’s difficult for me to go out and find a person to connect with. Guys always say they want to bring home and marry the “girl next door” type but no one wants to actually date them because it’s too much work…at least that’s what my guy friends tell me. So yeah, I could go to the bar and play the part of “tease” and “whore” but at the end of the night I’m still just me and I’m still going home alone.
(sidenote: from my observations being an east coast girl, the typical bar/club guys is as follows: short, gelled hair; too muscle-y for his own good and definately showing it off; too much cologne; button down shirt with top couple buttons undone and sleeves rolled or short sleeve polo (neck possibly up); necklace/chain of somesort around neck; jeans; generally just tries too hard.)
I don’t think you’re very nice at all and I don’t know who you think you’re fooling.
Grow up and quit whining. Quit being a pansy and grow a pair.
I’m a young looking 62 year old that hasen’t so much as had a cup of coffee with a woman in over 15 years. Now, the biggest part of the problen is an extreme case of shyness. I couldn’t approach a woman if my life depended on it. The rest of the problem is that I’m a nice guy, and we all know that women don’t want nice guys. They go for the bad boys every time. Unfortunately, all I know is nice. It isn’t in me to even try to be a bad boy. I guess a relationship just isn’t going to happen. If that’s the case, I can only hope whatever time I have left is short.
Our of curiosity does anyone actually know who you are?
Really wish you would continue your story, or at least let us know what has happened with you!
Thank goodness for Stumble or else I would have never discovered this site, I do hope you keep blogging on behalf of all nice guys.
Would you consider trading links? I’m a wedding photographer and I’m looking for like minded and creative people out there. Please let me know. My blog is at http://www.terrylee.net/blog